Ray at Bellona Times asks:

‘I can’t decide whether the inability to distinguish either “apologizing” or “taking responsibility” from “making excuses” is a characteristically American trait or more generally human. Introspection is no help. Please advise.’

Aaron Lazare, psychiatrist and Chancellor/Dean, University of Massachusetts Medical School, dissects the essence of a well-formed apology:

“One of the most profound interactions of civilized people is the offering and acceptance of apologies. Some apologies have the power to heal and restore damaged relationships, avoid or undo vengeance and grudges, and diminish guilt and shame. Failing to apologize or offering faulty apologies may lead to strained or broken relationships, grudges, and even vengeance.” [more] For A Change