The upside of anger: ‘ “Anybody can become angry, that is easy; but to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody’s power, that is not easy.”
So wrote Aristotle, more than 2000 years ago, in his classic work The Art of Rhetoric. His words don’t quite square with our modern concept of anger. Today, we tend to think of it as a destructive emotion that can wreck relationships and blight careers. Indeed, the field of anger management is awash with theories on how best to control or suppress excess anger. But anger, it now seems, is not all bad. In fact, we might do well to cultivate our anger in some situations – in personal relationships, in negotiating certain business deals and within social action groups, for example.
“To the extent that anger is usually unpleasant to experience, it could be viewed as a negative emotion,” says psychologist Brett Ford at the University of California, Berkeley. “But experiencing anger can help us pursue our goals, and be happier and healthier in the long run.” To reap these benefits, the knack, as Aristotle understood, is to know when, where, why and how to get angry. We need to learn to use our anger strategically, rather than letting it control us.’ (New Scientist).
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